My deepest sympathy to the DeCola family. The loss of a loved one brings great pain to the heart. Reading God's Word at this time will surely provide comfort. Psalm 147:3 says, "He[Jehovah] is healing the brokenhearted ones, and is binding up their painful spots." No matter what painful spots you're experiencing in your hearts and life right now, there is hope for the future. (Jeremiah 32:17,27; 1 Corinthians 15:26) My thoughts and prayers are with the family at this time.